For us, we’re in the thick of it right now, the 9 month regression. Taylor has recently learnt to crawl and is pulling herself up on her knees and will probably be standing soon. She cries when we leave the room, scratch that, she throws a tantrum when we leave the room (like face down on the floor and screams). She has even learnt to throw objects, off a table and around the room too. She’s also picked up some cute personality traits and imitations too, she bats and rolls her eyes, gets shy and hides her face, and knows who she likes or if someone’s a stranger. With it all comes the sleep regression in full force for this development milestone. She is waking more at night, to be fed but also to be close to me and be soothed. It’s a constant waking and drifting off, about every 2hours through the night. Bedtime is at about 8pm, she then wakes at 11pm, 1am, 3am, 5am, and wakes for the day at 7:30am. Most of the waking though is not to breastfeed more for hunger but just to suckle at the breast, it’s as if she snacking all night, and it’s tiring me out. Her usual routine is bedtime at 8pm and sleep till at least 4am (sometimes 5am), breastfeed fully and go back to sleep till about 8am. Pretty good right!? Lately I had been pining for Taylor to please go back there, back to waking once. Well I am happy to report, she will, thankfully sleep regression is temporary, for now we do our best to get through it.
Moms and dads you got this! Do what works for you! But if you find yourself in the midst of a sleep regression, as I am with Taylor right now, and you’re in need of a few tips, you can try the following:
1. Respond by soothing your child but be careful not to create any new sleep crutches or falling back into old ones. For example I was very tempted to just put Taylor back in our bed, but I’m trying my best to stick to returning to her cot (which is next to our bed, so she’s still close by).
2. Remind yourself that this is temporary, you may need to reassure your child that you are nearby but that it is still time for sleeping.
3. Recognise that your child also is tired and frustrated with whatever developmental milestone is happening, it is also helpful to keep this in perspective. It’s sure to be short-lived and baby, and you, will be back to sleeping soon.
4. Remember that you are not alone, it is very normal.
Happy sleeping (or not sleeping) moms and dads!
Please feel free to leave a comment in the section below, I would love if you shared your experiences on sleep regression or just let me know if reading this helped you as much as writing it helped me.
With love: Taryn – Mom over at 3Boys &a Lil’ Miss